the handbook
Identify your self loathing and how it is projected.
Transform the loathing directed at others into understanding and compassion.
Transform the loathing directed at the self into understanding and compassion.
EZ. Can’t believe I was stuck on two for so long. Good thing skill issues are fixable.
EDIT: In retrospect, I may have done this in the wrong order. Switching steps two and three may work better for most people.